I gave my ex our house and half my savings, but now I feel resentful
Your feelings are understandable. Exploring and accepting them may help you move on
TL;DR
- The author was in a 20+ year relationship, managed finances, and was the sole breadwinner.
- Upon early retirement, relationship issues surfaced, leading to the author leaving.
- The author voluntarily gave the ex-partner the house and over half of their savings.
- The author has since built a successful new life with a new partner and travel.
- Lingering resentment stems from the material assets left behind and perceived lack of recognition.
- A psychotherapist validates these feelings, stating they are not petty but signals of unmet needs for acknowledgment.
- The therapist suggests accepting and acknowledging feelings, and identifying the 'crossed lines' contributing to resentment.